Not again, and I hope it never happens to you.

Seriously! I don't understand people.

I have written about this before and I will probably have to write about it again.

My husband Andrew is a brain injury survivor. He had a stroke and other brain injury complications from a car accident. He has recovered way past what we have been told what to expect. He tries hard not to let it keep him back and not to use it for any excuse.

But it is there.... and people are jerks. It doesn't matter if you forgot or don't know people are still jerks.

He is a little bit slow, and he hates that. He hates when people make him feel stupid.... because he is not.

He sometimes needs more explanation or for you to repeat it, but not because of what you said, but just for him so he can understand it. And sometimes he forgot what you said or if you answered his question. That is brain injury. You can never be 100% better.

If he asks you a question to clarify, he is not being rude; even if it comes across that way
 His brain thinks either on multiple broken tracks or on one straight track that is ridged and makes since and never changes. If he asks he is not questioning you or how you do it in hopes that you change it, or do it his way: you just set up a road block in his brain and he is only trying to make it make sense. Be kind, have patience, explain it and know it still might not make sense..... he may ask again until it makes does. You should not be that way only to him, but to everyone. You would want them to be that way with you, your spouse, your children, your parents....

If you think I am talking about you, you are right. I am talking to EVERYONE. Every person that reads this, every person who wants to talk about this. I hope you or your loves ones never have a severe brain injury, and if they do I hope they can have a phenomenal recovery.... and I hope everyone including you treats them with the respect they deserve.