I never used to really think about my first impressions and how I come across to people. In fact I will admit that I just assumed every one just liked me. It was a hard lesson to learn that some people just don't like me... for their own reasons... but as a 30-year-old adult I have come with terms that so people just won't and that is ok... I probably don't like them either :).
Even thought I believe what I have stated above, in my 20's I also learned that peoples first impressions of me were the opposite of what I always thought I was. For example a group of girls I had worked with at King Soopers told me one day that when I had started at their store (my 4th store) they thought I was probably a stuck-up bitch and surprised that I was one of the nicest people the have worked with. I was very very puzzled. Why did I come across that way? Was it because I had the confidence of working for the company several years already? The part of me that does not open up to those I do not know yet? The fact that I don't just walk around smiling... I mean really who does that anyway? Strangely these girls were not the only people to say something similar... something like I was not who they thought I would be.
I learned that was ok too. I made changes to make sure if I could help it, make sure my first impression was what I wanted them to think of me.
Even though I have grown a lot in this area, I still get annoyed when people just assume things about me, my family, or my life. I'm talking about people I have known for a long time and not just first impressions of people I just met.
For example; Andrew and I bought a new house. The house is in a nice neighborhood with some moderate to pricey homes. We went from a low income apartment to our new home and I think many people had some assumptions about how we could make such a move... no we are not rich. I don't feel I need to get into my financial situation because seriously it is not your business.
I will say this: Besides mortgage loans I do not have any debt. I do not own a credit card. My car is paid off. I don't have an iPhone or a smart phone of any kind. I can not even use the internet on my phone. I own 2 pairs of jeans and not as many clothing items or shoes as other people. I go grocery shopping... I used to use coupons but realized I was buying crap... but I still try not to over spend. Yes we went to Disneyland... that is what happens when you save money. Ok sure I don't have a job... I am mooching of my husbands disability benefits.... until I can get a job. All those teaching jobs that were supposed to be around when I got out of school are no where. Andrew and I are both good with our money and we can get by... I am not saying we are 'poor' either. We just know how to spend and save.
Now sorry if I seem like I have gotten off topic, but my point was that people assume things about people based on what they see. And unless you know all the details of what I just shared with you... you still don't know the fact... so quit assuming... and not just about me either.
Off my soapbox now!
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